To use his own words, he once declared, I am not a man. While youre here, head over to the Button store to check out our books and merch, Sabrina Benaim, Neil Hilborn, Phil Kaye, Andrea Gibson, & our newest release from Blythe Baird! Two people can look similar and be completely different genders. Premium Powerups . Why would you do this, if you lost access to power, legitimacy, intelligibility? Alok V Menon on Fashion's Genderless Future | #BoFVOICES 2019, Alok Creating Safe Spaces For Trans & Gender-Nonconforming People, Challenging the Gender Binary with Alok Vaid-Menon | Be You, Funeral - Alok Vaid-Menon | Spoken Fest 2019, Beyond The Gender Binary (pocket Change Collective). I think that when it comes to trans people, the narrative right now is so obsessed with us and a collateral damage of existing and having in the world as a trans person, like, woe are them. In moments like these I think about how dangerous beauty can be. When I see things that I love, when I learn new things, when I read new books, when I encounter new ideas, I want to share it with everyone in the world. Vaid-Menon said. Gauge interest and check availability for speaking engagements, appearances or corporate events, Provide you with the speaking fee to book Alok Vaid-Menon or other celebrity appearance fees, Give you personal recommendations for the best keynote speakers or celebrities, Assist you with any questions you have throughout the talent booking process, First Transgender Man to Make Team USA, Transgender Advocate, Triathlete & All-American Duathlete, Founder of TransTech Social Enterprises & Actress in the FX Drama "Pose", Attorney, Author & LGBTQ Rights Activist; Motivational Disability Speaker; Founder of the Trans People of Color Coalition, CNN & ESPN Columnist; Celebrated Voice on Sports, Race & Gay Rights, Openly Gay Actor Known for My So Called Life, Thirteen Reasons Why & Star Trek: Discovery, Executive Director of "Equality for HER", Activist & Mental Health Advocate, Transgender & Gender-Nonconforming Activist; Executive Editor of "Out" & Former National Organizer for Transgender Law Center, Transgender Activist; National Face of Transgender Student Rights, Peloton Instructor & Makeup Artist; Founder of SPEAK Instagram Live Series, Tony Award-Winning Actor; Best Known NBC's "Law & Order: Special Victims Unit" & "Mr. That was the voice of Alok Vaid-Menon. I was no longer an individual. not, 'Can you help me help you?'" So it was summer 2012 in Cape Town, South Africa. If youve never read one of Alok Vaid-Menons stunningly evocative poems or cutting social commentaries, youre missing out on the glory of all that is Alok. That while we might mechanically be alive, while we might be speaking, we never really do the due diligence to ask, Are these the words of my own that Im speaking? And I had to alchemize it and hack at it. And I remember speaking it and being like, whoa, this is what I, not just what I want to do for the rest of my life, but this is what I am. They are the creator of #DeGenderFashion: a movement to degender fashion and beauty industries. And so the connotations that we inherit of color are that color is something that should be feared or something that should be relegated to the special event. Alok Vaid-Menon is one member of the transgender South Asian performance duo known as DarkMatter. I see interconnectivity with nature, the earth, humanity, and a deep practice of humility. Rather than telling cisgender people how to help trans people, Vaid-Menon said they reframe the conversation to ask cisgender people if they're ready to heal from the ways the gender binary has affected them. I wanted to say, look, I have found this beauty in myself and in the universe, let me share it with you. Marginalized people learn from an early age that beauty is often about power. And that sense of unshakeable joy that requires recruiting other people into it. We are not trying to establish a new beauty standard. What I recollect is a feeling of unbridled joy, a feeling of wonder, of the enormity and potentiality of my body and this universe and art. The sight of me walking with my head high -- brown, bearded, and in a bold red lip -- was too much for them. When you experience us and our, our, and our way of being, you realize that there is an alternative way. By creating an account, you agree to our Privacy Policy. i will soon forget. Atlanta-based company Mailchimp calls Aloks talk required viewing for the world and Cornell University uplifts Aloks presentation as truly life-saving work.. And then I ask it until I can remember that the shame was not my own. Music for Awaken was created by Blue Dot Sessions, Podington Bear, Tendinite and Siddhartha Corthus. ALOK VAID-MENON (they/them/theirs) is an internationally acclaimed writer, performer, and public speaker. And sometimes you wonder if you should have kept shaving and the hair keeps coming back and the wounds keep throbbing and the man inside keeps knocking and you, who are impatient, keeps running. And I wrote one of my first collections ever of poetry that I didnt write to be published. I think for me it also takes the form of style. As a subscriber, you have 10 gift articles to give each month. We prove that we are real by telling them that they are not. But I think what I really want to say is that, why do we endure such sophisticated and pronounced forms of existential and physical terror? Alok Vaid-Menon: 'It's time for a new beauty paradigm'. WebCome here to share slam poems, or talk about slam! I feel beauty right now in being a disembodied voice. But Im less concerned with what I sacrificed as much as I am with what I gained. Id put on an old Bollywood track and I would just dance. Vaid-Menon is self-publishing a poetry book called Your Wound/My Garden. At the beginning of my career I was really concerned with detailing the nature of the wound that I had in the world, Mx. I guess the academic in me would say, I felt like I was no longer a subject. Alok Vaid-Menon: The Urgent Need for Compassion. Fill out the booking request form or call our office at 1.800.698.2536, and one of our agents will assist you to book Alok Vaid-Menon for your next private or corporate function. Is this me? I would tell everyone, Im going to grow up and Im going to be a dancer. And I woke up in flames. One of life's paradoxes is that we are encouraged to "be ourselves," but are often punished when we do. ", "I dont need your help. And what a delight and what a joy it is to be foolish together. Welcome to AWAKEN, a podcast presented by the Rubin Museum of Art in New York City. "They've repressed their own femininity. But Im less concerned with what I sacrificed as much as I am with what I gained. What am I feeling in this moment? She eventually passed on without ever seeing me as myself. And what I really appreciate about the story is it requires us to kind of move out, zone out, zoom out of just like an interpersonal interaction and see the world from a different perspective, and be like, what, from the perspective of a tree or from the wind, is this conflict? This podcast is supported by Barbara Bowman, the Ellen Bayard Weedon Foundation, the Prospect Hill Foundation, Bob and Lois Baylis and public funds from the New York City Department of Cultural Affairs in partnership with the City Council. I am proud to be part of a generation of artists who are challenging mainstream beauty and showing the world that niche is the new norm. Robot". i want to text the boy above ground waiting for me, ask:have you ever been to a funeral with complete strangers?but instead i look at the woman next to me, the onewho told a dead man to die more considerately andi remember that to live in america is to attenda funeral with complete strangers: how many ghosts does it take for a cemetery to call itself a country? Vaid-Menon said. I was raised Hindu, and I associated religion with organized religion, with a set of parameters and protocols and scriptures that had to be followed explicitly. 2017 also saw ALOK being selected as the youngest recipient of the Live Works Performance Act Award, granted to ten performance artists across the world. In a viral clip from the podcast "Man Enough," the nonbinary poet and speaker said the gender binary hurts everyone not just trans people. And I really want to say that art was that for me. Know that you're divine. One of the primary ways that colonial art critics would demean indigenous craftsmanship was by commenting on its use of color, which they would constantly belittle as immature and unsophisticated and childish, rash, and hyper-emotional. For many, the path to enlightenment begins by acknowledging suffering but not letting it define who we are. As a full-service talent booking agency, we have access to virtually any speaker or celebrity in the world. How do I express it? "I don't need your help," they said, adding that they "have an unshakable and irrevocable sense of who I am" and don't need to prove anything. In this performance-lecture ALOK presents a 21st century approach to gender rights, calling for an end to the gender binary. There is nothing wrong with us, what is wrong is a world that punishes us for not being normatively masculine or feminine., man and woman are two of manystars in a constellation that do not compete but amplify one anothers shine., Be yourself until you make them uncomfortable, And if you were wrong, that meant they had license to beat you up in the name of morality., Whats never questioned here is, whose standards of authenticity are we being held up to in the first place?, And we tell the kids who dont fit into our categories that they are wrong. And I wanted so badly back then to be a dancer. I think that I always want to remember and teach the world that I was born with a heart, two lungs, two eyes, no shame. Or is this someone else? To which I would ask, why wouldnt you do this? I wept: for her, and for me. No one else should be able to tell you who you are; thats for you to decide., We want a world where boys can feel, girls can lead, and the rest of us can not only exist but thrive. poet. Join for an evening of poetry, stand-up comedy, drag, and more as they take their audience on an emotional roller coaster all the way from the personal to the political. Alok Vaid-Menon and the Art of Standing Out. Music for Awaken was created by Blue Dot Sessions, Podington Bear, Tendinite and Siddhartha Corthus. I was paying so much attention to the ways in which I was discriminated against that I forgot to pay attention to the ways in which I was already free. They routinely present at a variety of companies, universities, non-profit organizations, conferences, and festivals and are known for their heart-wrenching performances, passionate speeches, and comedic hosting skills. 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When he overcame these forces, the Buddha was able to achieve enlightenment. Because the thing is, you have revelations about yourself, but youre not ready yet to live those revelations. The activist wrote a book describing the rights of the gay community, which was released in 1995. As the creator of the growing movement to degender fashion, ALOK is helping others move beyond the binary into full expression. It gives legitimacy to the way that we police and restrict one another's appearance. Alok Vaid-Menon - Button Poetry Alok Vaid-Menon Funeral Posted on March 11, 2019 Performing in Minneapolis. They are the author of "Femme in Public" (2017) and "Beyond the Gender Binary" (2020). so i want to embrace to this woman on the trainand say: i am afraid too say: remind me trustsay: sometimes this silence feels like the highest pitch of screaming. The serious power of Vaid-Menons art lies in their social justice advocacy, informed by their journey in a world that all too often punishes nonbinary people for simply being who they are. P.S. Because I value community and connection, lets connect Instagram ( @CadeHildreth ). We use these artworks as a jumping off point to better understand the paths our guests have been on and where they are going. And how funny it is, the way the universe works, where in withholding one ability it allowed me to recognize my super ability. And what does it mean to move from there? The word artist is one of possibility, not constriction, they said. And I caught fire, which is intense. "Orange is the New Black" star Cox wrote, "@alokvmenon with the full sermon. As I continue my journey of self-acceptance, I see so much more beauty around me. We do not handle requests for donation of time or media requests for interviews, and cannot provide celebrity contact information. We deserve more options. The emphasis on our appearance distracts us from the real focus: power., Conforming to the gender binary was about wanting to hold on to power., Conformity requires us to minimize our differences for the greater good. "I'm nonbinary, which means it's not just that I'm challenging the binary between male, female, man and woman, but between us and them," Vaid-Menon, author of " We thought fitting in would give us securitybut is it security when someone else living their life differently unsettles us to our very core?, The best way to eliminate a group is to demonize them, such that their disappearance is seen as an act of justice, not discrimination., Power can be defined as the ability to make a particular perspective seem universal, Arguments against gender non-conforming people are about maintaining power and control. And so then color became associated with anti-reason, emotion, unrestraint, unbridled ways of being. All Rights Reserved. This site uses cookies. In a conversation filled with wisdom, historical insight, and radical mercy, ALOK challenges us to value compassion over comprehension, to try harder for each other in the name of love, and reminds us that learning is a sign of being alive.We want your feedback on season 1. It didn't work. Cannot help but smile when your nurse shaves your right thigh for your bandage. Support Button Poetry: http://bit.ly/buttonpatreonSubscribe to Button! And if youre enjoying this podcast, leave us a review wherever you listen to podcasts. A listing or profile on this website does not imply an agency affiliation or endorsement by the talent. Tragedy, death, loss and love are essentials we struggle to accept. In her eyes my journey was about hurting her, not about healing myself. Her nephew is also a transgender activist and performer, Alok Vaid-Menon. Alok Vaid-Menon have Our booking agents have successfully helped clients around the world secure talent like Alok Vaid-Menon for both live and virtual events for over 20 years. And I can feel it there in my voice. Its the reason why I do the work that I do. Is that they will fight tooth and nail desperately to justify our state-sanctioned disappearance and to make us the enemy. Because thats the substance of life itself. In some cases, the actual quote may be above or below the stated range. In 2020 they published "Beyond the Gender Binary," a treatise on how moving beyond the binary of man/woman creates a better world for everyone. WebALOK they/them author. Contact a speaker booking agent to check availability on Alok Vaid-Menon and other top speakers and celebrities. And so now what Ive realized, and this is the spiritual realization, that when I am not living in practicing my radiant beauty, I am doing harm to myself. We punish them until they conform. WebFuneral by Alok Vaid-Menon. I dont need you to show up to 'protect' me," Porter wrote on Instagram. Because before I could speak, I could gesture. #degenderfashion love & need you contact@alokvmenon.com ALOK (they/them) is an internationally acclaimed gender non-conforming writer, performer, and public speaker. Mara is often described as representing the inner forces of illusion and ignorance. The presumption is always, "Why wouldn't anyone want to be beautiful?". Is this my own beauty? "And then here we are, 100 years later, trans and gender-nonconforming people are saying, 'Hey everyone, I want to be able to exist, I want to be able to walk outside without being spat on, I want to be able to live and not fear dying.' And so I think I lost that fluidity. Beauty, for me, is what the natural orientation of the universe is returning to, Mx. Awaken is sponsored by Tricycle: The Buddhist Review, a print and digital magazine dedicated to making Buddhist teachings broadly available. Showing Editorial results for alok_vaid menon. They later added that people need to have compassion before "comprehension" meaning they need to have empathy for trans people even if they don't understand them. Acclaimed gender non-conforming writer, performer, and speaker, ALOK, shares their story, and the Like Im going to let a couple finish, but its the after-party for me. I am awake.. The live and virtual event speaking fees listed on this website are intended to serve as a guideline only. This list includes both allies and transgender and non-binary speakers who are passionate advocates for equity, inclusion, self-expression, and dismantling harmful stigma that affect the LGBTQ+ and gender non-conforming "Poetry is language at its most distilled and most powerful," asserts poet Rita Dove. How are you supposed to be believed about the harm that you experience when people don't even believe that you exist? "Women were basically just saying, 'We want the right to vote,' and men heard that as 'Im losing power,'" they said. For the most current fee to hire Alok Vaid-Menon, please fill out the. They are the author of Femme in Public (2017), Beyond the Gender Binary (2020), and Your Wound/My Garden (2021). Who hurt the people who hurt you? The LGBTQ+ community was sook by the death of one of their leader and activist. As a visibly gender non-conforming person, I often receive unsolicited advice about my appearance. Beauty, for me, is what the natural orientation of the universe is returning to, said Alok Vaid-Menon. No one is purely good or evil. WebAmanda and Liam Lezra. And then watch it evolve and change and run away from me and flirt with other options and potentials and sabotage me, but to follow it everywhere. I think theres a reason when I research in my own work the long legacy of gender variant people across the world and many cultures, that we were associated, so often, with medicine people or healers or divine leaders, because we understood that in so many ways, we were preparing the body to receive higher wisdom. In this sculpture, the Buddhas right hand is depicted touching the ground as he calls the earth to witness his triumph over the demon Mara. and some part of usis happy because this, this is the first time we havefelt like part of something greater than ourselves in a whilein this city where sometimes it takesan accident to remember what the purpose of abody is to begin with. In her eyes my journey was about hurting her, not about healing myself. And then you acting like a fool, that gives me permission to be a fool. *Disclaimer: Nothing on this site should be construed as medical, health, or financial advice. IE 11 is not supported. AAE Named to Inc. Best Workplaces in 2022. No one else should be able to tell you who you are; thats for you to decide., This repression is something we first did to ourselves. Anyone can read what you share. All American Entertainment has successfully secured celebrity talent like Alok Vaid-Menon for clients worldwide for more than 20 years. Why would you do this, if it exposed you to more harm and scrutiny? And so much of the formalization and consolidation of European-Western modernity was also a project of aesthetics and color. In one memorable moment, Mx. Pricing often varies between live and virtual events. Awaken is produced by the Rubin Museum of Art in collaboration with Sound Made Public. The Mandala Lab is reserved for family programming from 1:00 PM - 3:00 PM every Sunday. And what I gained was my life back. An insistence on radiant beauty, despite all of the vapidity and the vehement violence. But there are so many more important questions to be asked when a child is born, such as: Hows your baby doing? or How can I support you during this time? or Why is it so expensive to raise kids? Or maybe even Where can I donate to help?, Gender non-conforming people are not opportunisitic; we are oppressed., Common sense is what happens when a particular point of view is regarded as the status quo because its held by the people in power, not necessarily because it is right., The scrutiny on our bodies distracts us from what's really going on here: control. When Alok Vaid Menon performed this spoken word poem live at #Spoken2019, they left the crowd So who am I going to prioritize? comedian. As a mixed-media artist their work explores themes of trauma, belonging, and the I was dematerialized and less concerned with form than I was with flow. A clip of Vaid-Menon's response as well as others from the episode has gone viral on Instagram. Alok Vaid-Menon on how the transphobic narrative constructs predators and victims And maybe I would ambition so far to say perhaps dance was all of our first language. Accessing this beauty can feel impossible in a system that rewards conformity over creativity. And at least for now I say no. All American Entertainment (AAE) exclusively represents the interests of talent buyers, and does not claim to be the agency or management for any speaker or artist on this site. And that degree of intention, I hope to bring into everything. Goodreads helps you follow your favorite authors. This writer and performance artist is fighting for a world where all people are able to self-determine their gender. CADEHILDRETH.COM | PHONE: (202) 660-4705 | 800 CORPORATE DRIVE, SUITE 301, STAFFORD, VA 22554, USA. Because there are things more important to me than that. If it was universal and just, it would not need to be constantly proven. At her funeral I had to dress as the man she wanted me to be. 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